Self-proclaimed masculinity coach Rafa J Conde recently made a controversial claim that using public restrooms is a sign of weakness and that men shouldn’t consult their wives on important decisions.
Rafa J Conde is founder of the “Man of War” organization and host of a podcast with approximately 250,000 followers. He shared his controversial views in a video that has since gone viral across social media platforms.
“Weak men run to the bathroom every 15-20 minutes. They get a little nervous, they gotta go take a cr*p, they gotta go take a piss,” Conde states in the recording. “And when you walk into a public restroom and you see a guy taking a cr*p, you know, that’s embarrassing.”
The self-styled alpha male then escalates his argument with an unexpected warning about personal safety.
“I gotta tell you, this is the most vulnerable position a man is ever gonna be in. Taking a cr*p, anyone can open the door, stab you in the f**king neck with a knife. Think about that for a moment next time you go out there and start taking cr*ps in public.”
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The video quickly accumulated hundreds of comments from users expressing disbelief at Conde’s claims. Many pointed out the inherent contradiction in his message.
“This guy’s scared to s**t in a public toilet and he’s calling anyone else weak?” wrote one commenter.
Another user noted the paranoid undertones of Conde’s bathroom security concerns: “Imagine being so afraid of the world that you think someone will randomly stab you on the toilet.”
The fitness influencer’s rhetoric didn’t stop at bathroom etiquette. In the same video, Conde also addressed marital dynamics, suggesting that consulting one’s spouse indicates a character flaw.
“If you have to consult with your wife about simple things in life, there’s a big problem,” he claims.
“If you have to consult your wife about certain business decisions, about certain things that you’re going to do to better yourself, there’s also a problem there. Your wife should be supporting you to become the best version of yourself, to be the best leader possible. And if she does not back that, there is a freaking problem. And that’s on you.”
Commenters were quick to point out the logical inconsistency in this advice.
“My guy, how is she supposed to support you if you don’t talk to her about what you are doing?” one Reddit user asked.
“Adults like this haven’t worked through whatever it is that happened in their childhood that made them feel like they need to constantly be protecting themselves,” one commenter observed. “They live in a constant state of hyper-vigilance and fear.”
Others questioned the credentials and authenticity of the growing number of online personalities offering masculinity advice.
“These dudes seem like they were raised in an off grid compound by some weird misogynist group, then suddenly dropped into society like ‘go and preach’ with no briefing of how weird and backward they are,” another user wrote.
